Making love is an integral part of most couple’s lives, and while some couples stick to the basic, vanilla sex, others opt to venture into more dangerous territory, hence rough sex. Rough sex need not involve violence (unless she’s into that sort of thing), but it can be whatever you want it to be and you can take it as far as you and your woman are willing to go.
She Said Yes!
Now before you delve into all the sexual and potentially torturous fun that you’re all giddy about, keep in mind that this kind of sex must be consented to beforehand.
Whether it’s your long-time girlfriend, wife or a one-night stand, you have to ensure that she’s into the mildly painful event. And if it’s a first for both of you, establish a safeword that either of you can use if you feel that things are going too far — believe it or not, there may be things that you’re uncomfortable doing to her. The safeword must be a word that you would never use during lovemaking, something like “banana” or “mustard.”
You can either broach the topic whilst in the midst of talkative and mildforeplay or you can talk about it when there’s no sexual escapade occurring. When you’re kissing her, you can start out by holding her hair tightly by the back roots and ask if she enjoys the feeling of it while kissing her mouth. If she moans, then you can talk a little more about the adventurous things you’d like to do with her.
The point is to make sure that she’s up for it — otherwise, you might just end up on the receiving end of a bitter reaction.
Roughing It Up
Pain and pleasure are not that different, in that they both release endorphins (neurotransmitters — the body’s natural painkillers). Experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins and so does a spanking. Endorphins are likely released amid experiencing pain in order to soothe the mind. But then again, the pain I’m referring to need not be intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for.
You can be tame, or you can get wild…